loss of inheritence

ever imagined that the way we think is quite similiar to our parents espacially dad.
our decision making power, our reacting to any situation or emergency, and most of all financial bent , all carries slight reflection of what our dad has done in past.
it might be very obvious , coz v learn from home, but iam talking about conscience, about moulding the thoughts in same direction as they were always.
not neccesarily its forced upon us , but it comes with the bloodline, or how else could u explain son to show certain qualities like dad when he has been staying in hostel half his life.
its good to have options open but not so many that u actully forget what always wanted,
the point that iam driving at is parenthood.
it is very neccessary for a couple to go under certain tips, guidelines, formulas and tricks before jumping to produce a baby..
and that too not just once but perodicaly,say after 5yrs , how to deal with child, after 15yrs, how to give him his space and when the innocent child turns 22 , parents shud know what exactly do they want from their child.
and also there should be something like like choices , like intrests , which the parents should have and child should also respect them..
iam writing this coz not everybody is same , but atleast one should have prefrences in life.
and for me it came a little late.keeping family tradition o becoming an emminent figure like an enggneer or doctor, or anything for that matter.
but imagine u dont have any tradition, no ties with blood relatives,no past ,all u r is what u think..
strange but true , no iam not going against parenthood,i absolutely abide by wt thy do is in our best intrests.somehow one thing keeps lingering inside me " how can i survive without spoon feeding"

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