Friendship Vs Love Vs Marriage

Alright, So after a lot of thinking and a lot of research i am finally begining to post this article about those 3 wonderful words

FRIENDSHIP,LOVE,MARRIAGE.

These 3 words have been the integral part of Indian culture and Bollywood movies(hate those movies) and for the last few weeks they been bugging me. I have been thinking, discussing, argueing, listening to people around me in order to get an insight on these topics trying to find out what they think about these unavoidable subjects.

Over the weeks i have asked lots of questions, spend a lot of time, money, brain and energy in gathering info. about this topic and i think its about time i posted MY THOUGHTS and the inputs i got from some wonderful friends who volunteered to share their opinions and were kind enough to open up and talk about this topic. Now many of you might not agree with what i am writing but then again when did i ever cared about that.

So let's start.


FRIENDSHIP

Friendship is the golden thread that ties the heart of all the world. It is I
believe the stongest bond known to mankind.
Now I consider my self to be good when it comes to friendship. I love my friends, I take care of'em,I am there for them when they need help, I lend them support(and Money, lots of Money). In one line I am the kind of guy who has been around whenever any of my friends needed me.(And guys if by any chance i wasn't there, trust me i must have tried.)
Bottom line i am sort of person whom you can call THE FRIEND.


Love

Love on the other hand is a commitment, not that friendship isn't but love i think is an out of the world experience. Now i know people who know me think that i am not a follower of the "Love Theory" or i am against it. So just for the record, I am not against Love. I Love....Love, just that I am not too keen on being bitten by the love bug.
Having been in love and having seen people fall and rise in love, I think Love is truly the most beautiful feeling one can experience.
It is amazing, IF it works for you.


Marriage
Coming to marriage now. Well thats easy, when you are mature enough and you earn enough, your parents get you married. Or in a more romantic way i can say, that people get married to solemonize their love. Marriage is what i call taking love to the next and the pen-ultimate level. Or as very bluntly and very rightly put by one of my new friend, Marriage is Legal Sex.


Now with the definitions and meanings all cleared out, lets move further.

As you know I think friendship is the most important relation in life, because i think that Friends are the siblings, God forgot to gave you. And not many of you know but i would rather prefer friendship over love and marriage.

Now i say so because of a reason. You might not agree with it but here it is.

If life is a guitar, friendship is the strongest string. In friendship one can be completely free, honest, far yet close.

Case Study 1:
I have not met one of my friends for over an year now.(Work takes people to different place). I miss him and i know he does too. But even then whenever we talk, its the same way we used to do when we were together. There is no loss of love. Our friendship is strong as ever. I might have not partied with him when he got a promotion or he might not have hugged me on my birthday as he loved to do, but even then i feel the same way about him as i would feel, back when we used to have a senti conversation after getting drunk together.

Now consider a couple in a the same position who haven't met for over an year. Do you think that their relationship would remain the same over a period of time? Would they still be madly in love after not having met each other all this time?
Well Yes if this was a Karan Johar movie. But news flash, Life isn't a movie.

Practically its not possible. And the reason is that in case of Love or Marriage, there is an aspect called Physical Closeness and SEX. Now keep in mind these are two different things.
And when you don't get that from the person you like/love, you wander. And if any of you do not agree with this, please explain to me, why the word INFIDELITY is always in news.
And this results in break-ups, heart-aches resulting in Sorrow that means lots of crying, Pain and misery.

And this brings me to the real reason i started writing this post.

If Love and Marriage really are the most beautiful relation in the world.If they truly are that amazing, fulfilling and if Love truly makes your life joyful and complete,

Then why does love hurt? Yes i ask why something so tender, so comforting and so beautiful gives you pain.......?






to be continued....!